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A working single mom attending law school

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Bar Prep continued

Posted by newlawmom on July 11, 2011

Ouch. Luckily, the only pain I have right now is from a sunburn. Hopefully I will still feel that way after the bar exam is over! I have done substantial amounts of studying. But I do need to try a bit harder for these next couple weeks. Sunshine, children, barbeques, street fairs, and ice cream nights have consumed large amounts of my time and I am happy about it. I’ve been to the ocean more times in the past three weeks than I went in all three summers of law school combined.

On the job search – I had an interview last week, thanks to that connection I mentioned. I am keeping my fingers crossed that I get a second one, but with each passing day, my optimism fades. Still – three applications submitted, three interviews. That’s pretty good I think. Plus every interview is an opportunity to practice. If I don’t have a semi-dream job by the end of summer I’ll need to change my approach, but in the meantime I will continue to be very selective.

I’m still not smoking. That is a huge deal, but I will only commit to not smoking one day at a time. It is way to much to contemplate forever (or even a week.) I’ve been plagued with a bit of insomnia, which even for a night person is unpleasant. I don’t like looking at the clock at 4 am when I haven’t fallen asleep yet. Plus it leaves me irritable during the day.

I need to submit a few follow-up pieces for the character and fitness examination. So far, nothing too difficult or frightening. Remember, there are a few things I may need to explain. But so far, so good. Let’s see where I’m at next week at this time. Sixteen days to go.


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Orientation Day 1

Posted by newlawmom on August 15, 2008

It turned out to be a lovely day. Everything was well organized, people were happy to be there, and the quality of information presented was excellent. I felt very comfortable there and feel prepared to begin my classes on Monday. I am attending law school with a very interesting group of people who collectively have accomplished great things and had some amazing experiences. I had the opportunity to speak with a few classmates individually, but mostly we were in group sessions.  Highlights of my day included finding my locker and mastering the combination, realizing that the Deans and Professors knew me by name from the interviews last spring, and getting a personal tour of the law library. While I am exhausted, I am also satisfied and much more relaxed than I was last night. Tomorrow is day 2 of orientation, so I will be going to bed shortly. All in all, this is awesome! It doesn’t hurt that my boys came home tonight after spending a week with their dad. I missed them alot, but I did need the time to get some things done. I love my kids. They are excited to see the law school tomorrow.

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A working vacation

Posted by newlawmom on August 3, 2008

So it is Sunday night and I am officially on vacation. From my job that is. In reality, I will work harder this week than I usually do. I am down to the wire. Three weeks from today I will be getting ready for my first day of class. This week I need to get myself fully moved in to my new home, get a new PO Box, change my addess with DMV, change my address on my bank accounts, get a new cell phone contract for myself and my daughter, have a tag sale on Saturday to get rid of most of my belongings, shampoo my carpets, get the car in for an oil change, and go to law school to get my photo id and stop in at the financial aid office. Somewhere in there I need to get my three kids out for a day of fun at the amusement park, our last family outing before school starts. I also need to get my daughter out shopping for the rest of her dorm supplies. The week will go by fast.

I am very excited to start school. I can’t wait to get started on my first assignments. I hope this level of enthusiasm continues through the first semester of 1L. I am as ready now as I will ever be.  I’m sure I will spend some evening time this week reading my pre-law collection of books. By four or five in the afternoon, I will need a break from physical labor. That leaves the rest of the day. I have gotten better about going to bed early, but getting up in the morning is still a problem. The kids and I will be practicing our morning schedule next week. For tonight, I need to get going. I had an awesome long weekend and I need to get to bed. I hope all my readers have a spendid week.

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Three weeks to go

Posted by newlawmom on July 24, 2008

Law school orientation is three weeks away and for the most part I’m feeling good about it. I with the finacial aid check could be used to pay for my books, but it is not to be.  I need to buy the books tomorrow. I’ve had it on my to-do list all week and on my ??? list for two weeks before that. Avoiding is not helping me here. The price is making me ill. The books aren’t going to get any cheaper. Do you know how many clothes I could buy my boys with $800 plus? Or how many weeks worth of groceries? Or gallons of gas?  Considering law school costs over $30000 per year and I am attending on scholarship my whining might seem out of place. But I am a budget-minded person and these books seem extreme. I’ll stop complaining now.

I’m not a big fan of television, but I do have a few things I watch. Right now I’m watching Nanny 911. This and Supernanny both make my list of favorites. It is always good to have perspective. Yes, it is true, my biological children are angelic and I am one of the best parents around. Supernanny would never need to visit me. But…there have been two episodes of these shows that have shown mentally ill children, and I was upset that the nanny did not have the sense to refer the family for professional help. There is a very big difference between children who need discipline and children who need mental and emotional help. Providing that help early in life could prevent many problems later. On the other hand, too many parents are willing to medicate their children for assorted problems usually identified as hyperactivity. It is a shame to see healthy children medicated unnecessarily. The issue is so complicated. Which is why….it is nice to just watch Nanny 911 and not think too much.

I didn’t get too much done today. It was a workday (evening) for me. I did some laundry, cleaned my house, and spent some time with my children. I am preparing for a family reunion on Saturday and did some shopping for that. I managed to get up early and will go to bed early tonight. Tomorrow I will need to get more done and then I plan on taking the weekend off. I hope all my readers have a lovely day.

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7/23/08 accomplishments

Posted by newlawmom on July 23, 2008

I got a lot done in the basement today and also built a bunkbed in my boy’s new room. I was relieved and grateful to hear that my former in-laws will be driving my daughter to school in a few weeks. Her departure falls during my first week of classes, and I was planning on putting her on a bus and bringing her stuff to her over the weekend. So having grandparents drive her up is a better solution. Tonight I will read through some of the LEEWS materials and perhaps put in one cassette.

I had a few interesting dreams last night. In the first one, I was dropped off at a college dorm far from home and all alone. I was having a problem engaging with my classmates and found myself in my dorm room alone, where I met my roommate who told me she had been in her room crying for two days straight. Nothing looked right. It seemed like a bed in a strange place. I was needing to make it mine. And then I woke up. The second dream was stranger. There was a mascot walking around that I assumed was a man in a lion costume. The lion took an interest in my man-friend, who later returned to tell me that the lion was actually a woman who had attempted to seduce him. When I saw her later, she wasn’t wearing a costume at all and just resembled a lion. It was strange. Very strange. I hardly ever remember my dreams, so when I do, I like to write them down. What this has to do with law school, I’m not sure. But remembering dreams is a definite sign of anxiety.

So…I’m getting off the computer early tonight. Purposefully planning on reading and going to bed early as these are two things I will need to do more regularly. Thanks to all my readers and I hope you have a sparkling day.

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Law School Countdown

Posted by newlawmom on July 20, 2008

Well, vacation is over. I feel refreshed and ready to get busy. I spent today preparing my new living space. I have doubled up my living arrangements through the 15th of August, giving myself plenty of time to get settled in. Moving right before law school is a pain, but the new arrangements will be much better for me as I will need someone at home to get my kids on and off the bus. Living with my man-friend seems to make that happen. There is something about being 38 and having a boyfriend that sounds immature. Neither can I honestly call him my fiancee. So man-friend it will be. I am remodeling the basement in his house to give my boys some space to call their own. They will “live” upstairs, but a rec room will be good for everyone’s peace of mind. So…on to law school.

This week I will be getting my physical on Tuesday and getting my books. I have decided against buying the “recommended” books and will buy only the required casebooks. From there, I will look over the different options for hornbooks – Emanuel’s, etc. I have decided to buy all of my casebooks new but will probably get the hornbooks used. I am putting my laptop into the shop for a checkup and it also needs a new electric cord. I am undecided regarding using the software that will allow me to type exams. For classes I will be sticking to notebooks and pens. I think I will be too distracted by the laptop. Still, it will be with me everyday for study purposes. Regarding the backpack, I will not be buying a rolling bag. I think they are tacky and not likely to earn me many friends. But I am considering having my casebooks rebound into smaller versions. I will make my final decision on that when I have all the books in my possession.

Preparing for 1L is not really all that complicated. I have read a few law related books, but mostly I have attempted to enjoy my summer. I don’t feel the anxiety kicking in just yet. I’m sure it will hit me, but I’m actually feeling pretty confident about the whole thing.  I will make a point to drive to and from school at my regular commuting times within the next two weeks. I think this is the only “big” thing I have left to do. So…enjoy the day. Thanks for reading.

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I’m a new law student

Posted by newlawmom on July 3, 2008

How did I get here? What am I doing? Why am I doing it? Oh, the answers are long. Too complicated for an introductory post. But suffice it to say there are reasons. Compelling, purposeful reasons. Child abuse, mental illness, torture, trauma, drama, and the fifty states of the union. The world needs to hear from me. I have a lot to say. But first I need to shut up and listen. Become a top law student so I can become an awesome lawyer on a mission. Law for a Cause.

For tonight, I am an anxious, underworked, overstressed waiting student. I need to wait. In the meantime, I look at my children. Look at the past several years of my life, and look in amazement at the fact that I am, indeed, a 1L. A first year law student with a school to call my own.  A thirty-something, non-traditional, unconventional law student who also happens to be a single mom to three children and the failed adoptive parent of a fourth. Does that make me unique? I need to be certain I’m not so unique as to out myself inadvertently.

I care about too many things. Too many people. Too many problems that seem overwhelming. For tonight, that problem concerns children who are kidnapped and raped by family members. Think Vermont. Think murder. But how many other children are involved? What happened to them? How will that affect them down the road? And what type of justice, and more importantly, treatment,  do we offer the victims? Here is where I differ from most people in society…I want to know what happened to the perpetrator when he was a child. And what type of justice did he receive? What type of mental health problems did/does he have that result directly from his own childhood experience and have clearly been inadequately treated? And how do we solve this problem? Because until we do, crimes against innocent children will continue. And those children will grow up to be troubled.

With all due respect, I know what it is like to be the parent to a child who is heading rapidly towards being a sociopath. Those children exist. They hurt animals, other children, themselves. They destroy property, threaten to commit murder and suicide. Sometimes they are successful.  Sometimes they end up locked up. Sometimes they get treatment. But how that works, I’m not exactly sure. Because if there is a length that a person could go to in order to get help for their desperately ill child, I have done it.  To those foster and adoptive parents out there who feel like you have failed, here I am. I’m going to bring the truth to those who need to hear it. First, like I said, I need to shut up and learn how to be a lawyer. And therein will lie my challenge over the next three years.

I am a law mom on a mission. And I aim to perfect it. I want top grades. I need to do my best. My absolute best. Because children all over this country are counting on me to insure the law represents them. Only a person who has “been there, done that” could possibly understand the life I have lived over the past several years.  If there is such a thing as a calling, then law school is that for me.


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