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Year 3 Here I Come

Posted by newlawmom on August 19, 2010

I can’t believe it. Where does the time go? And look at how different my mind set is three years later. It’s amazing. Life is never stable. I’m not even sure yet how I’m going to get it done. Right now I’m just trying to get everything done before Monday so I can concentrate. I have no books, haven’t looked at my reading, haven’t applied for any jobs for next year. Nothing. What I have done is take care of my children and my mother all summer long. And my mother’s companion, who passed away this past Sunday. His funeral is Friday. My mother is still very ill. I don’t know if she will make it or not. On Monday, my first day of school, she is scheduled for some more tests. It will be hard to not worry about her. As for the kids, this will be the first year that most of my classes are at night. That will be very hard for them. I have hired a babysitter for three nights a week from 3-11. They prefer to call her a driver as they are too old for a sitter. You know, drive me here, drive me there. That is what mothers of teenagers do. It goes without saying that the babysitter must drive, have their own car, and have plenty of insurance and a good driving record. The boys are now 14 and 10. My daughter will be 21 in October. Plenty old enough to know that mommy has had a rough summer. So…

The summer job ended up working out ok. I wish I had more time to devote to it. But I did get to work on a memo in support of a motion to suppress a confession in a murder case. That was pretty cool. I can’t wait to follow the arguments and the outcome sometime in September or October. As much as I would like to, I am unable to pick up any legal work this semester. It really is going to be all I can manage to go to school, take care of my kids, and take care of my mother. More than enough. So what’s on the agenda? Family Law, Real Estate, Land Use, Trial Practice, and Criminal Procedure part 2. Sounds good. Lets see if I can remember what I’ve already accomplished: Contracts, Torts, Property, Civ Pro, Con Law, Crim, Crim Pro, Evidence, Tax, UCC, Admin, a clinic, Med Mal, Health Law, and 2 credit class on empathy more or less. I just want to pass the bar now. I hope this last year goes smoothly.

To all you 1L’s, best of luck. To my 3L friends, we’re almost there. And to those of you who have finished this journey, I have a newfound respect for you.


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Choice or mirage?

Posted by newlawmom on May 26, 2009

Daniel Hauser and his mother have returned home, and the child is recieving appropriate medical treatment. The court allowed the parents to retain custody of the boy and it seems like a happy ending. With some luck, he will recover. But you are wrong. I hope Daniel gets physically better. I hope he never develops any other cancer as a result of the chemo itself. I hope that his family can support him as he deals with the incessant and horrible side effects of this treatment, and I hope the child doesn’t fight to hard and need not be restrained or have his rights violated to receive the treatment in the first place. I hope he and his parents have the strenght to deal with pure hell. However, I maintain that nobody should have the authority to dictate that this child be repeatedly injected with poisin that will almost kill him as it saves him from almost certain death.

Medicine is not God. People who practice it are not God. The opinions of one American educated doctor are not automatically better or more justified than the opinions of a doctor who was trained in a different country. We are not the only country where people get cancer, and we are not the only country that has found treatment for the disease. We are far, very far, from being the best, most perfect, most knowledgable, most moral, most Godlike people of the earth. And the sooner we learn that the better off we will be. While people are all set to force the Hauser’s to pursue a particular cure for their one child, Daniel, thousands upon thousands of other children are in the care of the government. Many hundreds, likely thousands of those children are in hospitals tonight. They are locked up, strapped in beds, and drugged. They are abused by other children, abused by adults, and ignored by 99.99% of the people who are all gung-ho about questioning the Hauser’s decisions. These kids are ignored. They are at risk. They do not get proper care. They do not get proper treatment. Half the states don’t even know where all of their children are. Children are left alone in hospital beds. They can be dead for months or years before anyone even reports them missing. So everyone who wants to get all philosophical about this one child might do a parentless child a favor by leaving the Hauser’s alone and finding a child who needs a parent. There are, after all, thousands of them available. And if you want one with serious health conditions to decide about, there are kids with all variety of those who don’t have a parent who cares to do anything at all.

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Posted by newlawmom on February 9, 2009

Hurt children, adoption, mental health, law school, and sanity? It occurs to me that I am attempting to blend things that do not go well together and I have yet to figure out how I’m going to make it all work. Today’s search terms for the blog:  Threatening adopted child with foster care.  Attachment Disorder Single Mom. Law school scholarships. Older Law Student.  How to make it work – that is the question. To all you parents out there who are finding my blog, welcome.  To other law students, I’m probably not your average student and you may want to disregard most of what I say. I am a woman on a mission. I just don’t know exactly how to go about it. For today, I am applying for some paid internships that have more to do with public health than they do with the law. Did I choose the wrong degree? I don’t think so. I stopped into career services and they are supportive of the internship and gave helpful advice. Beyond that, I am clueless.  I don’t want to just volunteer my time over the summer to causes that I care about but that do not help me achieve my goals. I want to make progress. I want to see how it all fits together. And as usual, everything will happen exactly as God intends it to happen regardless of my well laid plans. As though I have any of those, right? Children are being harmed, families are suffering, mental health systems are contributing to the problem, educators fail to understand, and most of the world is ignorant. And I am arrogant enough to suppose I might be able to help? Yeah. The other half of the time I want to go blind, lose my memory, feign ignorance and go earn some money. The real problem is I do need to earn money because without that I can’t do anything for anyone, including myself. All the knowledge in the world does not pay my bills. But I will thank you parents of kids with RAD for reminding me that I got here from a place, and that place still exists for too many. Not only that, my son with RAD is only 15 and needs to live in this world despite his life. Not only does he need to live here, but all of society needs to share the world with him and live with the consequences. So….law school. Con Law, Property, Civ Pro, Contracts, and Legal Writing and Research call me now. I will master these subjects, make no mistake about it.

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