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Posts Tagged ‘Reactive attachment Disorder’

Law School Part 2

Posted by newlawmom on January 4, 2010

I’m halfway done! I went back to school today. Health Law, Commercial Law, Administrative Law, and Medical Malpractice shall consume my spring semester. That would be in addition to the clinic which is year long. It was a blah kind of day. I had too much down time and not enough work to fill it. That feeling won’t last long. I’m also headed off to the ABA Appellate Advocacy competition. There are only a few days left to finalize the brief, but most of my work has been finished. (Over the Christmas break that didn’t actually exist.) I had a ton of computer problems over the break, and those problems continue, so I apologize for the lack of posting. Other than that, life is good. I continue to draw people to this blog who are searching for information on Reactive Attachment Disorder. I hope to be able to work this subject into a paper for my Health Law class. We shall see. I need to do some brainstorming tonight and see what I can come up with. It seems to me that someone should be liable for the damage that is done to these innocent children. If I can have even the tiniest impact on that, I will be satisfied. Well, I need to go for now. I hope everyone has a great 2010.


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Child abuse, neglect, disaster…

Posted by newlawmom on November 11, 2008

I was checking out the search terms people use to find my blog, and today there were a few sad ones on there. Reactive attachment disorder. Child abuse. Child neglect. These are the things that matter to me. The things that got me here. And the things I am hoping to impact upon once I make it through this process of education. So how is that looking? Well, so far, not too great. I don’t know how this helps the kids. There are laws that prevent children from suing. I sort of knew that, but I guess I hadn’t really thought about it too much. These kids should be able to sue. I’m told there is an exception for intentional torts. I don’t know too much about it. I guess I wouldn’t want my healthy children to be able to sue me for false imprisonment when I send them to their room for punishment. Nor would I want them to be able to sue for other thngs. Neglecting to provide the best of everything despite by best intentions. But for those who have been genuinely harmed at their parents hands, and that particularly applies to those children who have been removed from their parents homes as a result, how is it fair that the child is asked to give up their entire family and everything they hold near and true just to be safe, and then they can’t recover anything from the people who hurt them? That seems wrong. Specific performance sounds like a good remedy for these kids. When you had me, it was an implied promise to take care of me. You broke the deal, now I want you to perform as promised. Hmmmmmm. Who knows how it is that my attendance at law school is going to benefit these kids. I haven’t even begun to figure that out yet. For today, I am involved in exam prep. And that is all the energy I have. But I have not forgotten my purpose here, nor do I intend to forget it when I am done.

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Sad crimes and my life

Posted by newlawmom on July 23, 2008

I got a lot done today. I am off to law school and committed to living every day of my life to the fullest, realizing I could die any day, same as the rest of you. There is usually no forewarning. But certain things can be predicted. I predict that if we continue to abuse and neglect our own children and fail to recognize that simply giving a child a new family does not solve their problems, we will continue to see some of these children commit crimes as adults. Two different crime anniversaries have been in the news this week, and both cases involve adults adopted as children. 

Edwin Hall kidnapped, raped, and murdered an 18-year old Kansas girl just over one year ago. Today he pleaded guilty and offered that he thought the girl was twelve and had nice legs. This man was removed from his adoptive home as a teenager after threatening harm to his adopted sister.  Why? Because there is a mental and emotional disconnect. If a person is unable to connect with their mother and father, unable to feel connected to other people in the world, there is no sense of decency necessary. There is no understanding of decency. Learning the standard expectations of society is like learning a foreign language without having any expectation of needing to use it in the future. Even if the individual is able to recite the rules of appropriate language, there is no internalization behind it. Considering my son was removed from my home after threatening to murder our entire family, and considering a few years before that he pulled a knife on his social worker and attempted to feed my two-year-old a large assortment of his own medications, I think I have a right to be concerned about it. This could be my kid in the news ten or fewer years from now. It is my greatest fear.

In the second case, the home invasion in Cheshire, CT happened exactly one year ago today. A mother and her two innocent daughters were raped and murdered while the husband was severely beaten and left for dead in the basement while his house was set on fire. It was a terrible crime committed by two men. One of those men was adopted as a child, and his parents claim that he was always “distant” and “unconnected”. The word for this is Reactive Attachment Disorder. It is the pre-cursor to sociopathic behavior. It is real, and it has a preventable cause. If there is one study I would like to do during my lifetime, it would be to research how many of our jailed criminals had a history of being placed into foster care, adoption, or other situations where they were separated from their biological parents.  These criminals were not necessarily born bad or even born different. It is their life circumstances that have contributed to their behavior. And it is our society that allows those life circumstances to exist.

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